What should I do. Scopes: okay, although the whole point of forums is [1] that they're anonymous and [2] people's problems aren't ever remotely unique enough for the poster not to potentially be literally from anywhere in the world thus unidentifiable. I hadn't been out drinking for about 3 months beforehand, so think the excitement of the night, constant glasses prosecco and wine, and the buzz of just being all dolled up all mixed together to see me very giddy and tipsy. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Talk to her about it and explain to her how it hurt you to see them kissing. I kissed my husbands best friend while we were drunk, well no, he kissed me My boyfriend was drunk and let his friend sleep between us. The next time you saw your significant other you might have blurted out, I have a confession to make. but all of a sudden I feel REALLY angry. I am not someone that cheats on people, I am just a nice lad who gets carried away in the moment when drunk. Cheaters remorse. Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. However, if you kissed someone whom you liked or had a crush on while you were drunk, my opinion is that you cheated. I think my husband could maybe forgive the kiss, but the doubt would be there, he would wonder if this could happen again, and he would be so hurt. For starters, your husband, even when supposedly immature, didn't kiss HER. | We finally mended fences, but there still is a type of tension between us. Bringing this up is only going to hurt your SO. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you its okay. ;-)). find me on and follow me on. The drunk part won't matter to him because his mind will only think about the kiss. If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. This recently happened to me. HIKARI, you can't take up an obsolete thread as your own, no matter any similarities, so if you want feedback and advice it's best to start a new one (and copy and paste that post into it as your opening post), okay? It didn't feel real. Not just, here's your marriage license good luck. I'm not sure how long we were there when one of the women decided to call it a night, and left in a taxi. So you went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your already Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" I was drunk on Friday night and I kissed another guy. Fear holds you back. Not sure how anyone can say they're "certain" he doesn't need to know, given the fact that he made his own standards and expectations perfectly clear on that score, back when he himself was the 'victim' of a come-on. I came home and we resolved it and ever since everything has been fine. A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. "then the cheeky ugger only went and bloody kissed me, didn't he! You came to your sences and stopped this from going any farther. I think a real man actually kisses a dude at least once to really know your sexuality, one says. But, listen, I don't want to turn this thread into a general chit-chat one. You don't have control over these things. He is a good person and a good husband and I love him very much. Right,undoubtedly you didn't say what Tillybops wanted to hear. I sent the guy packing with a friendly piss-take (whilst deliberately flashing my ring), and then told hubbie the minute I got home. Thank you. Funny, I have never gotten amorous when I have had too much to drink. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. Soulmate I guess as long as you stay at this site I'll find all of you. Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. - GET THE FUCK OUT. Nah Don't say a word about it. If the reaction isnt strong, then maybe its okay to confess. His imagination could go haywire over that one. Answer (1 of 7): As you have not mentioned your gender, i am assuming you are a girl. Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Psychology and the Mystery of the "Poisoned" Schoolgirls. And, he did little favors for me. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. End of story. My wife wants to leave because of this. To tell versus Not to tell (and everything that has a bearing). I too stand by my post as well-doing what is right as it relates to this issue is hardly ever the path taken. As far as crossed purposes,hmmmmmmmm not following you. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do . That's a lot to take in. But living a lie would be so much worse. Such as crying,begging that would be enough for me to give them a second chance. I'm going to be the best wife I can be going forward. I remember saying 'no, no, this is bad' in the middle of it, and he said 'I know but I really like you and I have done for ages', and he kissed me again, but this time only for a second because I said ' I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person' then he kinda just stroked my arm and said 'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. Thank you soulmate,but I'm getting over those issues. Should I ask him for gas money? A certain someone might read it. They all agree that kissing is intimate with one even saying that to them, its more intimate than sex. .Houston, you and I have now strengthened our bond (whereby attention and affection follow) by together having conquered a potential crisis which can now longer be called a problem rather than a PAST godsend of a dual warning (not enough attention/affection worthy of marriage) merely in problematic clothing. 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I immediately felt totally ashamed after it happened and left the party. :-) I mean, *I* don't mind if your relationship continues slowly but surely remaining on the skids, do I. Free weekly email, Insta, and more - > https://linktr.ee/monogamish_me. By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare So if for some reason he'd got funny about it, I'd have just dealt with it. reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): A Just my opinion. It happened two days ago. ;-) I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. = I'VE ONLY GOT HIS WORD FOR IT. Things do get out of our hand at times, now think. Do you? Why would you want to do that? I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. FoxieLadie is I dont believe in innocent kiss. Apologize to your SO and tell him that you love him and only him. I had three DON'T: Kiss and tell to someone you're kissing. I went to a party with friends last night and I kissed someone.. I gave up playing tennis with him. Team spirit is this: So if life hands you lemons, don't HIDE them where they could one day trip you up or cause a rotten stink. I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. Your Drinking Behaviour. [1] you didn't foresee and avoid being in that predicament. But not good enough and you not happy enough to exclude fore-foreplay (open-mouthed kissing) with someone (*ugh) other than him as per the for-life contract? [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. Well as far as my experience with sex,I would definitely say I'm not an expert. I also agree with SUSIEDQQ that is won't be the worse thing that will ever happen to her or her marriage. When I was in college, I cheated on a bf while I was drunk not because I was drunk, but because I was presented with the opportunity and I wanted wanted to do it. "I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses." People who are qualified to label themselves good don't keep secrets from the one person in the world they tacitly vowed never to keep secrets from, particularly when the information is the victim's right to know (in order to continue to emotionally protect themselves, particularly whenever their partner's showing they're currently unable to execute their duty of helping them do so 'right to know' because where there's a problem in the relationship as, with the mere aid of the pigpen gate-unlocker called alcohol, causes behaviour counter to the relationship's chances of continued success, then - AS a team - it takes both members' addressing it together for the solution/outcome to possess any real authenticity or permanent efficacy. It's not that big of a deal anyway and you aren't going to do it again. Because I already had some unresolved feelings for this guy and I let him kiss me and used the fact that I was drunk as an excuse. , By entering this site you declare And a stitch in time saves nine. So this was me subconsciously- not *setting* the standard but showing my maintaining it as per our agreements over only having eyes for each other and always, ALWAYS being 100% honest with each other no matter WHAT. I'll still cross over with him at times, but it will be minimal. Unfortunately, even these last few asides are tantamount to a forum no-no called thread mutineering. If you want to know the why's, you're going to have to be willing to hear the darkest part of what makes me, ME. this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I have posted a vent and been waiting for your scathing reply. Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. female The playing field is even now according to statistics. Houston, despite we started out as just friends, we now have PROOF that we have utilised a mechanism for cultivating love and respect, enough to now remain together til death do us part. This guy wouldnt take money from me (I should have seen this as a Red Flag, but didnt), so I bought him opera scores in order to compensate him for his time and expertise. I was heart broken, and even though he said he immediately pulled away, and we stayed together and over time forgot about it, I remember feeling so uneasy every time I knew he would be in that girls company. I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? How can I get over the guilt of kissing another man? - Female First You have a number of choices in terms of how to deal with what happened. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. You want me to go on a comma and replace her. Tell your husband. See what she has to say. Because telling him something that you regret and will never do again is doing exactly that. Houston, we have a problem. Go to a therapist if you think it could help you work through why this has appealed so much. Oh my god, (Brodie)bit my tongue! yells James. ;-)), Back too Ya My Sistah from another mother!! The fact he told you very soon after is good. Live with the soul crushing guilt you earned, or lose your BF. This post is probably the most intelligent and insightful posts Ive seen on this site. But, I did find out that I was attracted to my piano teacher. As one young man said " time heals" and he's so right. Will the guilt ever go away? Well, time for some fun questions: would you be telling him about it just to alleviate your own guilt? I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer. I speak from experience when I say that when that intimacy starts to die, it can be the start of the end. Years after my divorce the one thing that still makes me really angry is that my XH should have ended the marriage as thats what he wanted. 3. Lead to or gateway to, I guess there's a difference. With the other woman just across the room! Don't feel guilty because you are a mom (or dad) and you feel like you need to be spending time with them. If it were my husband, I would be upset too, because that would be so out of character for the man I know. If I some how knew which thread to follow to I'd go. The marriage itself trying to keep his father and the community happy, and just get my husband to consider the rest of the job force he worked in and the many his wants would affect with UAW seniority for a big three auto plant. But you can control whether you nurture the crush or acknowledge it and move on. I know he would forgive me but I don't want to deal with issue with him. Kissing that that guy confirmed it. Can Humans Detect Text by AI Chatbot GPT? It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship though. If you feel like this about yourself then you may be worrying about what he will do while he's at university. Lets get down to the basics here. Okay. He Have Lipstick Stain Or Make Up Stain On His Face It's an obvious sign that someone kissed him. I believe in complete honesty, 100%. I Feel Guilty About Kissing Someone | Relationship Talk Allow me show you for future ref what someone who hates feeling guilty looks like: We were good friends for a few years and have dated in the past but nothing serious. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? I'm going to keep my distance from my work colleague and I'm going to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. 507 views, 8 likes, 5 loves, 10 comments, 6 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Scrittori a domicilio: Mattia Insolia, Cieli in fiamme (Mondadori) con. Yes, I think if your boyfriend thinks his girl or boy or whatever is gonna be loyal to them even under the influence. I just knew it. The first step to a broken loyalty is a first kiss. Having eyes for someone else while you're married is seen to be wildly inappropriate. You just never, ever know. female Needing to hear this guy tell you it was OK- It was not OK. For what possible reason? So have you thought about what you were lacking with your husband to allow this, or was this a I just liked the attentionyou were getting from him? 3. reader, Ellis Mac+, writes (25 October 2005): A Lee.. you are too funny. I'm not married nor have I ever been married. Seriously. Me, I can't believe committing adultery isn't an actual crime yet. I was drunk but that is no excuse. I waited for the right time ?? We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. When the night was over one of the women said we could go back to hers for drinks, and I was happy to go. They need to hold people more accountable to commitment. Relationships are about trust, first and foremost. I feel so bad since then. :-)), SOULMATE: Meant as in the universe of sisterhood (wrongly) To award Biggest B*lls on the Block Award -comment never was to imply same race- so on behalf of the Academy I accept :), (Good stuff. Most people don't confess- You ask for advice of what you should do- you got the RIGHT advice. Here's what it's like for straight guys to kiss other guys - Metro I think it is a better idea for both of you good luck.do share progress. A guy bought me drinks and he asked me if I wanted to ride his motorcycle to another bar and I did. That's alright, that's a common mistake. I told him straight away what had happened. I feel like I am hypnotized by the guy. You're denying him that right and being selfish. 10 Do's And Don't's Of Dating Multiple People | Thought Catalog 8=) ) She has just sent a private message to him on FB. Please help. Kissed another man. Distraught by my feelings. | Mumsnet We have only been seeing each other for the past two months and I dont want his mind racing with bad thoughts. I enjoy watching my wife with other men, is this normal or - Health24 The way I see things, there are innocent kisses, which occur when a person had too much to drink, and then there are guilty kisses, which are precipitated by getting drunk. Oh there really isn't any disagreement actually. Ugh, basically. Saying that, however, I note you wrote: A female friend of mine was staying at our house for the weekend. I still feel so guilty and I just don't know what to do. Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? When I needed a dresser picked up from a furniture store, he offered to take me to the store and bring the furniture home in his pick up truck. So this was the whole tone in which I recounted it to hubby, ergo, he thought it was amusing (the event and my comeback), flattering to him *and* reassuring. And I know himhad it made him feel the slightest bit threatened and worried, either he'd have said so there and then, or, if for some reason hadn't felt capable, would have shown in his behaviour at some point (I was watching for it regardless). Do you want to end you marriage? I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. And as for our original subject, who knows maybe she told him. If a man or woman were genuine in asking for forgiveness. Way to make someone who, already understands and feels terrible guilt for what they've done, feel chronically worse. I'm trying - with the utmost seriousness and sincerity - to advise you to keep your relationship rap-sheet completely squeaky clean. What is he supposed to do with this information? I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. In the end you're the one who knows your boyfriend and whether he would like to know about something like that or not. Add your answer to this question! Your guilt is your punishment. Sorry Soulmate I know I need to stop,but it's hard to. Thankfully, he immediately and apologetically backed right off (which was when we woke this other woman and they both left), and, luckily, put his apologetic money where his mouth was by phoning me the very next day to say how stupid and guilt-wracked he felt, assuring me it would NEVER happen again so could I please forgive him and just forget it ever happened. I rang the guy and said ' oh wow, so last night, that really happened, what the hell where we at? ' Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? SA you have got it- it is more the "what's behind it" than what happened. However for the next time please be careful and never do such a blunder because he's a gem and you should not lose him just for your stupid or foolish acts .i mean any sophisticated or a ONE MAN WOMAN (a proud title for me :) and hopflly for u too ) wont like to stress her relatn or leave a man whom she loves or take him in a position where he might leave ? I am the same way. I have to be honest, I have never once had the urge to visit America. But you sounded like you were willing to take it farther with him,and risk it all. But I do have to state it or I'm failing to do this role properly as well as my innate compulsion to be unwaveringly socially and morally responsible - meaning, if you don't want to respond, don't. My piano teacher didnt behave like his normal, reserved self and he made suggestive comments to me. Then you must be doing it wrong. Keep it to yourself. When you're in a long-term relationship, it's normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. Where were you hiding it - up your sleeve? My girlfriend(Cintia), me and my best friends girlfriend (called Mercy). Are you sure you didnt have sex with him/her? I Kissed Another Guy When I Was Drunk, Should I Tell My Boyfriend? instead of: Slaying suspect pleads guilty | News, Sports, Jobs - Altoona Mirror The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. Hi Scope! It sounds simple, but if you think you know how to apologize effectively, you are likely wrong. And has also started crying for no reason when things are going well between us. For your information, I have only the *one* bottom and and it doesn't ever tend to leave tracks (- speak for yerself!) JavaScript is disabled. i asked him how he'd feel if i went and made out with another man in front of him. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! I put a blanket over her and sat back down next to the man. Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts. I am biased and do hold strong views because my XH cheated. However, if it doesn't close itself through sustained inactivity soon then I'll probably close it myself (as the actress said to the bishop). Why don't I feel guilty for kissing another guy? - Quora When you purchase through links on our site, we may earn an affiliate commission, which supports our community. I'm really surprised that everyone is saying "It's just a kiss" and to not tell the SO. Knowing what you value will help you build the most meaningful life possible. I thought I had lost him and then bumped into him further down the street. We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. Actually I really don't have any experience at all. And he grabbed my waist!. And Brodie groped James. Then the accusations begin, which night go something like: Why on earth did you kiss _________? Once my tennis coach misread me, came into my house, and gave a peck on my cheeks, in India, kissing is not a social gesture.
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